Almost anyone fate did not bestow great and continual success. Only the happiness that comes easily, is persistent and accompanied us to the end. Seneca the Younger (born Lucius Annaeus Seneca, called. Philosopher, 4 BC - 65 AD)

Your sexual persona


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Φ As a Phi, you have a good sense of yourself and your sexuality. You know how to turn on the sex appeal when it suits your needs, and have a fair amount of confidence when it comes to your sexual performance.
E As an E you tend to focus more on an emotional connection to your partner during sex.
L As an L you tend to enjoy watching yourself, and your partner while having sex.
D As a D you tend to be more experimental and willing to try new things when it comes to sex.
N As an N you tend to communicate with body language, not words, during sex.
8 As for your interest in sex, your libido score is 8 on a scale of 1-10.


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Your Sexual Persona
As a Phi, you have a good sense of yourself and your sexuality. You know how to turn on the sex appeal when it suits your needs, and have a fair amount of confidence when it comes to your sexual performance. You feel just fine about how sexy you appear to others. You have a decent level of sexual confidence too, and you're aware of others' sexual presence. You know to some degree what you like when it comes to sex. All in all, you're more balanced than most, because you don't obsess over any of the above-mentioned criteria

Because you aren't an extremist, you tend not to feel especially negative or positive about your sexuality unless prompted by an extreme circumstance. In other words, a situation that is especially positive or a situation that is uncomfortably negative may cause you to doubt yourself of lose some sexual confidence. But ultimately, you're even-keeled when it comes to sex and your sexual relationships.

On the whole, your centeredness makes you a fair judge of others when it comes to sex. More specifically, because you are someone who maintains a middle-of-the-road perspective about most things in life, you are less likely to judge — harshly or otherwise — the sexuality or morality of others. People with your degree of flexibility have greater potential for change, and an openness to learn. That strength plays largely into your sexual persona.

Your Sex Appeal
You are a lucky sort, with the gift of controlling how others perceive your sexuality. You can turn it up to 12; you can also keep a lot of your sexual aura under wraps, and you oftentimes choose to do exactly that, through your dress, conversation, and general level of sexual suggestiveness. You aren't out to please others so much as maintain your integrity. For you, that means not allowing yourself to be obviously sexy. You're a good judge of when, where, and how often people take notice of your sexiness. You charm who you want to charm.

Your Internal Sexual Confidence
You are very aware of your strengths as a sexual partner. You probably aren't afraid to ask for exactly what you want, and you probably don't hesitate to try new things that you believe will satisfy your partner. Since you are relatively free from the anxiety and worry that can sometimes interfere with an amazing sexual experience, you are more likely than most to explore what you might like, and just as importantly, what your partner might like. With your degree of self-assurance, you make a strong, exciting lover, one greatly appreciated by those you choose to share yourself with.

Your Sexual Awareness
You're not afraid to listen to your desires and investigate ways to satisfy them. Then again, you aren't pushing as hard as you could to find out what it is that you most like. You are open to further exploration, but you haven't devoted yourself to it, and might not. Fact is, you probably feel happy enough with the degree of pleasure you are able to tap into when it comes to sex. If you put a little more effort into your sexual awareness, be it through research — in the bedroom, in the library — you might find yourself enjoying an even higher sexual peak. You also might find that by working to heighten your own sense of adventure, you'll discover that even more pleasurable experiences await you.

About Sexual Persona
Sexual Personas
The first element of your sexual personality is your sexual persona. Your sexual persona is determined by three elements, your sex appeal, sexual awareness, and sexual confidence. Your sex appeal is an estimate of how other people perceive you to be sexually — what they think it might be like to be with you sexually. Your sexual awareness represents how conscious you are of your sexual needs, likes and desires. Your sexual confidence is all about how confident you feel when you're in a sexual relationship with someone else and more specifically, how sure you are of yourself when you're engaged in a sexual act with your sexual partner. It is, overall, a measure of your internal security when it comes to your own sexuality.

What's interesting is that these three elements — sex appeal, sexual awareness and sexual confidence — are independent of one another. You could find someone who has the highest sex appeal around; a person who everyone agrees radiates sexiness. Yet, this person could easily have a low sexual confidence, while at the same time, demonstrating a moderate level of sexual awareness. It is the varying degrees of scores on these sexual scales that determine your specific sexual persona out of the twelve predetermined sexual personas.

Creating Fantastic Sex
Shatter the Myth
Sex between lovers varies substantially. That's the norm, not the exception. Here's a little secret: No one has sublime sex every time. There are no strategies for having perfect sex that have been hidden from you.

Sex can be mind-blowing, but not every time. Learn to be realistic in your expectations and realize that sometimes, when everything is right, sex is going to "click." Other times, it's not that you're losing a connection or that it's a bad omen, but sex just doesn't seem "on." But with the following report, and action items, you can improve your sex life so that it "clicks" more often than not.


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Your Emotional/Physical Balance
You're an E. You are very much oriented toward strongly connecting emotionally with your sexual partner. You are most likely to find sexual happiness then when it is accompanied by a strong relationship and/or a strong level of trust. Even when you don't know your partner all that well, you may seek out or, at least, desire a closer connection, as you find emotional distance disconcerting when it comes to sex. None of this is to say that you aren't also drawn to the physical aspects of sex, too; simply, you place more weight on the emotional connection than the physical one.

Your Desire for Emotional Connection During Sex
There is an emotional component to sex for you, but the need to connect with your sexual partner isn't the driving force behind each experience. You aren't always flooded with emotions about a person because you've had sex with them, or have been sexually involved with them. Sometimes you feel emotionally connected to your partner; other times, you do not. The effect is directly correlated to the person with whom you are having sexual relations. You also might find that your emotional connection to your sexual partner is likely to change, as your relationship develops and especially, when your having sex.

Your Drive Towards the Physical High of Sex
The physical components of sex are very important to you. Sex is great, but for you, orgasm is something you really look forward to. You're probably disappointed if you don't climax — which makes the physical high of sex an integral part of the experience for you. Unfortunately, you can't guarantee the dizzying highs that having sex can produce. It's possible that sometimes you just think about it too much, which distracts your body from the task at hand. It's also possible that under certain circumstances, like being in a new environment or with a new lover, you have a hard time getting your usual hot button to work the right way. The best way to make sure your future sexual experiences are the best they can be, try to pay more attention to the details that do make the sexual experience click for you. Pursue them more aggressively when need be. It is the best path to ensuring the maximum in physical pleasure that is possible for you.

About the Emotional/Physical Scale
The Emotional/Physical Scale
In general, the Emotional/ Physical Scale (E/P) describes the degree to which emotional closeness or pure physical enjoyment is most important to you during sex. Some people are more oriented towards the emotional connection made between two people during an intimate moment. Other people thrive on the physical rush of sex. And still others, find both elements are equally important. For this reason, you can have an overall result that leans just slightly more towards the emotional, or E side of the scale, or a result that leans just slightly towards the physical, or P side of the scale.

Thus your overall result will tell you more explicitly, how you balance these two factors when you're dealing with sexual encounters. For example, someone who scores an E+ feels much more strongly about the emotional connection during sex. Someone who scores an E- feels just slightly more strongly about the emotional connections than they do about the physical connections. Someone who scores a P- feels just slightly more strongly about the physical over the emotional, and so on.

Creating Fantastic Sex
Use the 5 Senses to Heighten Sexual Sensations
Regardless of whether you have a more emotional or physical connection during sex, one thing remains the same: all five of your senses can be involved.

Too often, people focus on one or two of the senses. But for an exciting change, try stimulating all five senses at once. The key here is to excite your partner, so as you go through this exercise, focus on what she would like, not what you would like. You'll find that by pleasuring her, you'll get increasingly excited yourself. Sight, sound, smell, taste, touch. Those are your categories. Now, find elements to stimulate each of those senses.

Sight: Try wearing an outfit she's complimented you on before, that turns her on. If it's a tux, wear a tux. If it's your faded jeans, wear your faded jeans.

You can also awaken her sense of sight by setting the scene in one of your rooms. Light the living room with candles. Fill the bedroom with flowers. It's even ok to have an erotic magazine to flip through together if you think she'd be up for it.

Sound: Turn on music she thinks is relaxing or romantic. This setting isn't about you; it's about you reading her well enough to heighten the sexual experience for both of you. If she's particularly stressed, find a sound machine to play soothing white noise or the crashing of ocean waves.

If you've got a good singing voice, now might be the time to use it. Serenade her.

Smell: Don't forget that smell is the sense many people associate with emotionally. Smells remind people of their history and are particularly useful ways of bringing someone back to another place and time.

If you shared an exciting romantic trip to the Caribbean, try filling your home with the reminiscent smells of coconut or exotic orchids. If you want to evoke the trip to the orient, try using aromatic oils you can find at numerous health stores or gift shops.

If she goes wild when you wear your aftershave, wear your aftershave.

Or if the aroma of a freshly baked chocolate cake will remind her of your Sunday afternoons at the local coffee shop, bake a cake.

Taste: There are plenty of things you can do when it comes to taste. Take for example, the joy of culinary aphrodisiacs. In addition to oysters, people swear by chocolate, pine nuts and spicy food as precursors to unstoppable sex drives. For a more indirect way to tease her taste sense, you can eat a bite of her favorite chocolate cake, then have her taste it only on your breath when you kiss her.

You can also have your partner try some of her favorite foods, eaten directly off your body.

Touch: Touch seems like a no-brainer to most people, but there are things you can do to increase the draw of touch with your partner.

Try the no-touching exercise. Kneel on two knees facing each other. The goal of this exercise is to get as close as you can without touching. You may be unbearably attracted to each other, wanting to move in for an actual kiss, but see how long you can go without touching at all. The sexual tension that builds can lead to a powerful sexual experience.


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Your Touch/Look Balance
You're a L+. You love to watch. The distance that this preference can sometimes require of your sexual partner does not diminish the experience for you in the slightest. In other words, getting a visual thrill is worth the consequences to you. The pull to be affectionate physically just isn't that strong for you in comparison. Better still, you aren't conflicted about your turn-ons. Hands down, watching your partner come alive during intercourse is the sexiest thing in the world to you.

Your Tendency to be Affectionate During Sex
Physical caressing makes you swoon, and you often view a warm, soft touch as more erotic than any sexual gesture. It's because you are highly touch-oriented. Lucky you. You are able to reap the benefits of having high skin sensitivity without being sensitive to the extent that frequent physical connections can overwhelm you. Your favorite sensory experience? Kissing. For you, it's a big part of the sexual experience and something you love doing with your partner nearly as much as having sex itself. Those little things really get you going.

Your Interest in Looking At Your Sexual Partner
There's no doubt. You see the beauty in the human form. It's there for you and you notice the physical characteristics of your sexual partner's body. You enjoy watching them even if it means being at a distance. But then you're probably quick to get close and be a part of the action, too. It also depends on how emotionally connected you are to this person, too. If you care deeply about the person, you might be more inclined to spend more time admiring them, watching them, appreciating their physical look and what they're doing with their body. Everyone is different. The important thing is that you find someone compatible with whom you can really get into what you enjoy doing.

About the Touch/Look Scale
The Touch/Look Scale
In general, the Touch/Look (T/L) scale describes the degree to which you like to touch your sexual partner, or be touched by them as well as how much you enjoy admiring your partner, or watching them during sex.

Some people are strongly oriented towards the sensations of touch. They find the physical sensations particularly erotic. Other people feel more strongly about watching themselves and their partners while having sex. For them, the visual cues and aspects of sex are the most erotic. And for other people, both aspects of sex are equally important.

For this reason, you can have an overall result that leans just slightly towards the touch, or T side of the scale, or a result that leans just slightly towards the look, or L, side of the scale. Thus your overall result will tell you more explicitly, how you balance these two factors when you're dealing with sexual encounters. For example, someone who scores a T+ feels much more strongly about the touch connection during sex. Someone who scores a T- feels just slightly more strongly about the touch sensations than they do about the looking connection. Someone who scores an L- feels just slightly more strongly about the looking element over the touching element of sex, and so on.

Creating Fantastic Sex
Take a sexual shower
Many sexual couples have showered together. But if you pay particular attention to the nuances of being in the shower together, you'll enjoy the experience even more. Here's why.
  • Water adds sensation. Couple that with the sensation you already have being with your partner, and you'll find yourself aroused in a more heightened state. The water of the shower and soap also add a slippery element you might not be accustomed to when your partner rubs her body against yours.
  • Standing up in the shower, you are also exposed to a maximum of your partner's skin, something you can't always get in other positions or embraces.
  • A warm shower is automatically relaxing and will make it easier for you to wipe the day's worries from your mind, and hence, focus more on the sexual feelings at hand.
Keeping all these elements in mind, try taking turns washing your partner and having her wash you. This exercise has less to do with a cleaning routine, and more about allowing you and your partner to luxuriate in sensual touch. The combination of the water and your hands and body against hers, can be an enormous turn on.


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Your Daring/Modest Balance
You're a D+. You are willing to try anything, and you have a strong sense of adventure when it comes to romping around in the sack, or wherever it happens to be that you do your wild thing. You might even have shocked a few of your sexual partners in the past — although knowing you, you're less likely to worry about that sort of thing and more likely to feel proud of your avant-garde approach to sex. Every once in a while, you may experience a twinge of doubt over whether or not your sexual partner will think you're too willing to go to the edge in order to obtain a sexual high. Just keep reminding yourself that everyone is different, and sex is never about being right or wrong. It's about mutual gratification and satisfaction. As long as you're in line with those objectives, you're on the right track and have nothing to question.

Your Openness to be Daring During Sex
You've largely figured out what you like, and you're on the verge of expanding on those things. Indeed, you've already tried some unconventional sexual activities and find yourself drawn to some of them, at least every once and awhile. The more daring you are, too, the more curious you are to explore beyond known territory. Certainly, you don't mind your standard routine. But you've also seen the benefits of using your imagination and the pleasures that can await you by taking cues from imaginative sexual partners.

Your Level of Modesty
You are happily uninhibited about your sexuality, and you seldom shy away from expressing your sexual interests, desires, or history from those who want to hear you tell about these things. For you, sex is a beautiful, fun, natural part of being human, and you don't have time for people who judge immodesty as crude. If they misunderstand your openness, so be it. You don't judge others and you don't expect to be judged. In your view, being uninhibited is the healthiest, happiest way to go through life.

About the Daring/Modest Scale
The Daring/Modest Scale
In general, the Daring/Modest (D/M) scale describes the degree to which you are willing to try new things sexually, and the degree to which you prefer to be modest and discreet. To understand your score, you also need to know that daringness and modesty are equally acceptable. One score on this scale is no better than another score. The important thing to remember is to learn more about yourself so you can take this knowledge and enhance your sexual relationships — current or future. For some people daringness is critical. For others, modesty is more important. And for others still, there are equally important.

For this reason, you can have an overall result that leans just slightly more towards the daring, or D side of the scale, or a result that leans just slightly towards the modest, or M side of the scale.

Thus your overall result will tell you more explicitly, how you balance these two factors when you're dealing with sexual encounters. For example, someone who scores an D+ feels much more strongly about being daring, trying new things during sex. Someone who scores an D- feels just slightly more strongly about the experimenting then they do about remaining more modest and discreet. Someone who scores an M- feels just slightly more strongly about remaining more discreet than experimenting with more daring, unfamiliar things during sex.

Creating Fantastic Sex
Develop a Sexual Attitude
Whatever your experience level, one thing you can focus on instead of technique, is attitude. When you display the sense that you are comfortable with your body, are interested in an erotic experience, and are ready to feel good and make your partner feel good, you create a sexual aura around yourself. This doesn't mean you should take on the attitude of Casanova or other people you perceive to be sexy. You should still act yourself, just allow yourself to throw your inhibitions out the window. Sex is natural. It can be serious, but you should also be able to have fun with it.


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Your Verbal/Non-verbal Balance
You're a N+. You are a very strong non-verbal communicator when it comes to sex. You are probably capable of verbalizing your needs, desires, and plans during sex, but chances are that it's far less of a struggle to cue your partner into what you're thinking, feeling, and desiring using body language. You may even have concerns that prevent you from communicating verbally during sex; many people do. You might be shy; possibly you're afraid of saying the wrong thing. More likely, you're simply better at expressing yourself without having to say anything.

People are different, but you can learn a lot about yourself just by comparing what you're like in your day-to-day life with how you act in bed. If, say, you're highly verbal normally but you're all movements and subtle expressions when it comes to sex, you might want to find ways to feel more comfortable expressing yourself verbally in bed. Or not. The point is simply to maximize your pleasure during sex.

Your Verbal Communication Tendencies During Sex
When it comes to lovemaking, you prefer unspoken communication. In fact, verbalizing what you are feeling during sex feels downright odd to you. It's likely that you aren't an overtly verbal person in other areas of your life, so the desire to articulate your needs and feelings to your sexual partner simply doesn't come up much.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not having an inclination to talk about what you are experiencing during sex, or even afterward. Many people prefer to feel their ways through sexual moments and think that talking somehow diminishes the experience. Still, keeping quiet can create extra work for your partner, depending on what type of person he or she is. In some instances, your lover might be left to guess whether or not you are enjoying yourself, and what pleases you most. Owing to this possibility, it's probably something you want to discuss with your partner; don't leave him or her in the dark. (If your partner expresses to you that he or she would like you to vocalize your feelings more, do try it. It shouldn't be that big of an adjustment given your score.

If there aren't major gaps in understanding what each others' wants and needs are, then by all means proceed! Again, not speaking during lovemaking is commonplace, and as long as you enjoy sex with your partner and it's clear to him or her without being verbally acknowledged during the act, then there's no reason to change.

The Non-verbal Communication You Use During Sex
Your strengths lie mostly in areas outside of non-verbal communication. You might be good at it but you tend not to employ it in your sexual encounters with others. Chance are that it just doesn't come naturally to you. That's fine, too, as long as you can read others' non-verbal communication. You want to ensure that you are conveying enough information to your partner — in a way that's comfortable to you — so that he or she knows what you want and like. You also want to be certain that you are picking up enough information about your partner so that that person's needs get met, as well.

The Verbal/Non-Verbal Scale
The Verbal/Non-Verbal Scale
In general, the Verbal/Non Verbal (V/N) scale describes the degree to which you communicate with words during sex or the degree to which you rely on non-verbal communication.

Communication is central to finding satisfaction in your sexual relationships with others. If you can't communicate what you need, what you want — whether verbally, or non-verbally, you're probably not going to get it. As of yet, there are no known methods for getting your partner to read your mind. However, you can help them understand your body language better, or you can learn to better communicate what you want.

There are needs and interests that can easily go overlooked and unspoken when you're wrapped up in the heat of the moment. Oftentimes you won't remember to tell your partner something after the fact. And still other times it will just seem too unnatural to bring it up again out of context. It's easy to misread your partner during sex. All of the physical and emotional feelings can muddle up even the clearest of sentences which is exactly why it's even more important for you and your partner to know how to communicate. Understanding your score on the V/N scale should help.

Some people are much stronger verbal communicators. Others stick with non-verbal communication, and others still, rely on both kinds of communication equally. For this reason, you can have an overall result that leans just slightly more towards the daring, or D side of the scale, or a result that leans just slightly towards the modest, or M side of the scale.

Thus your overall result will tell you more explicitly, how you balance these two factors when you're dealing with sexual encounters. For example, someone who scores a V+ is much more of a verbal communicator. Someone who scores a V- minus tends to communicate verbally just slightly more than non-verbally. Someone who scores an N- uses just slightly more non-verbal communication than verbal communication during sex.

Creating Fantastic Sex
Mastering the Caress
The caress is probably one of the best ways to rev up your sex life. And the benefit is that these exercises work for people both trying to improve their non-verbal and verbal communication.

Lie down and relax. Start touching yourself lightly on the face, neck, and arms. Move your fingers across your body as slowly as you can stand and with the lightest touch you can master. Then move down to your stomach, trunk and legs. Focus on the sensations, then vary the speed with which you move, and the pressure you apply to your body. That will allow you to know how you like to be touched.

Next, try out your favorite touch on your partner. See if she likes the same speed and pressure as you do. Have her show you what she likes on her body, and then have her touch you in that way on your body. Or, have her tell you exactly what she likes and see if you can replicate it. That will help you understand each other's communication during sex.

You'll find that by identifying each other's most stimulating caresses, you will increase the pleasure of your foreplay and ultimately, your sex.


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Your Libido
You're 8. You've got a healthy, strong libido. You aren't apologetic about thinking about it lots, having it more often, and enjoying longer lovemaking sessions than the next guy, either. You know well that your libido is a central part of your physical life, and your sexual interest is healthy and robust because of that acknowledgment.

Your Libido and Sexual Relationships
Having a strong libido can make life fun-filled. It can also sometimes find you attracted to people you may wish you didn't find attractive, and keep your casual-sex radar up and running more hours of the day than you realize. Simply, whether you are actively searching out sex or not, the inclination pops up not infrequently.

Further, having a strong libido means that oftentimes spending time with someone you're attracted to will turn sexual at some point (assuming that this person is interested and amenable). There is nothing wrong with this, of course. You just happen to have a certain sexual openness that makes you perk up around people to whom you're attracted.

About Libido
Libido: the psychic and emotional energy associated with instinctual biological drives; sexual desire; manifestation of the sexual drive.

The term libido has come a long way since it was first introduce by the psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud. But for all intents and purposes, the word now means your general interest level in sex. When Freud first started using the term, he used it to mean sexual drive, or sexual instinct. Through his research, he found that sexual drive followed a certain pattern — a gradual buildup of intensity, followed by release, and a decrease in excitement. He also realized that sex was not the only human function that yielded this pattern. Eating, drinking and urination also shared these traits. As a result, he considered these activities sexual as well, because they followed the pattern of libido.

Freud, studied as he was, was still questioned by colleagues. Many of them felt he put too much emphasis on the biological influences on humans' sex behavior, and too little emphasis on the external cultural and social morals that impacted how an individual was socialized into sex and taught to view sex. It was that socialization, scientists said, that truly shaped one's sexual behavior and these factors were so strong they should not be ignored. They felt that there is an undeniable link between sex drive and biology, rooted in our need to keep producing our species. They also felt, however, that in addition to our biological need for sex, the societal and cultural environments in which we live truly shape our drive towards sex.

This test assesses your libido score by asking about several different aspects of sexual drive. How often do you think about sex? How deeply do you think about it? Does it take over your thoughts when you have other things to do? We measure your urge to have sex, how long you want to be engaged in sex when you do have it. We also associate how easy it is to turn you on with libido. These are the kinds of factor that are analyzed to come up with your overall libido score, which ranges from 1-10.

Creating Fantastic Sex
Wind up Your Sex Drive with Relaxation
Another key to fantastic sex, is to be relaxed. That's perhaps one of the most overlooked and undervalued components to a fantastic sex life. Your life may be hectic, and busy, but with the following insights, you'll be able to relax yourself, which will allow you to prep yourself for terrific sex.

Relaxation is the most critical element to sexual arousal. Try these exercises to get you there.

Slow down. The first step to relaxing yourself is to slow down your breathing. Lie down, close your eyes, and take 10 deep breaths in through your nose, hold them for a couple of seconds, and exhale slowly. You'll find that your body will start to relax as you focus on this breathing, and your heart rate will slow down.

Once you've slowed your body down, you're ready to start a caressing exercise. By lightly touching yourself or your partner, you awaken your sexual side while maintaining your relaxed state. Think about how a massage relaxes you. These gentle whispering caresses do the same, but with the added benefit of feeling slightly sexual as well.

Remember to breathe. In the midst of all the sexual charges, and in anticipation of the ultimate muscle-clenching finale of sex, many people don't realize the importance of breathing. Breathing can actually enhance your sexual experience. Instead of holding your breath during moments of heightened sexual sensations, remember to breath in and out continuously. Do not pause between your inhale and exhale. Think of them as one continuous cycle. Then you can pause between breaths.


Increasing Your Sexual Enjoyment
You are largely motivated by the emotional elements of your sexual experiences. At the same time, you have a strong libido that heightens your love of sex generally. It's a win-win situation for you. You think about sex, look forward to it, and greatly enjoy engaging in it, and by attending to your emotional needs and really focusing on how to satisfy them during sex, you really maximize your enjoyment of it.

Obviously, the more connected you are to your partner, the better sex will be for you. Conversely, if you have a weak connection with your sexual partner, or if you use sex as a means of connecting to someone with whom you aren't already feeling in sync, then you're likely to feel like something is missing, even afterward. It's why, when possible, you should try to establish clear and solid connections with your partners before having sex. Casual partners aren't likely to satisfy your emotional needs, and you'll avoid any feelings of dissatisfaction (with them or yourself) if you stick to having sex with people with whom you feel some emotional connection.

Your Ideal Sexual Partner
Your sexual language consists of subtleties. You like to use your eyes and let nature be your guide when it comes to sex. You don't want to have to talk everything out or explain what you need. If you have a highly sensitive sexual partner who is also very non-verbal and admiring like you are, you're probably set. This combination is relatively rare, however, so if you haven't met your match, keep some things in mind when picking a lover. First, being utterly alike isn't necessary to achieve sexual satisfaction and great pleasure. However, you might be hard-pressed to have a smooth level of communication with a sexual partner who is affectionate and verbal. Thankfully, employing different styles doesn't have to spell disaster. A person can learn your language if he or she is willing to work at it. The same is true for you.

How Others See You Sexually
When it comes to how others perceive you sexually, most people stick to what they can observe directly: how sexy you appear. You happen to be somewhat of a mystery to observers because you can be both alluring and aloof at times, leaving many to wonder what you're like when it comes to sex. They may strongly suspect there is a saucy, wild underside to you, but you're coy about showing it — even while you know it drives them to distraction.

Indeed, you like leaving question marks in your path. You prefer that people don't know your whole story, even if it means they make their own assumptions based on your appearance, alone. As far as you're concerned, most strangers can guess about you until the cows come home. And you know that they are, indeed, guessing.


Sex. You see it everywhere you go. From sex ed in high schools, to celebrated media sexperts, to advertisements for perfume, HBO's Sex and the City and the little medical wonder known as Viagra, sex is on the mind! Nothing perhaps, is more universal. No matter how personal the topic may be to you, the ever-present — and sometimes overly-explicit — idea of sex is every direction we turn. But why?

As long as there has been life, there has been the drive for sex. And in fact for some, the question, "which came first, sex or life?" isn't an obvious answer.

History of sex
In the beginning, the drive for sex did not always come from pure desire. In many cultures dating back to the Ancients, one's social standing and position in life predetermined with whom and if, you were to have sex. In ancient Athens, men viewed women as either a breeder or worker. And these folks weren't shy about their sexualities, either. Art and antiques from classical times show us that Greeks openly celebrated the image of the aroused penis.

It was Roman physician Galen who concluded that both the females and males required sexual pleasure, excitement, and climatic orgasm in order to generate the heat that produced new life. Thank goodness for scientific advances. What followed, however, was the Victorian view that a passionless wife or mother was all you needed for reproduction. Freud and those who studied his work were integral in bridging the rigid Victorian model of sexuality to a more social model. Sex was absolutely rooted in nature, in biology, but how we used it in our lives was more conditioned by our social and cultural environment.

Then, in the 1960s, we saw yet another revolution. No longer was sex a private affair between two people. The drive for sex is so alluring, is so undeniably powerful, people realized they could harness its message. Sexuality became commercial. It emerged politically as an axis for many social movements promoting the acceptance of women's reproductive choices and sexual expression, as well as the relaxation of censorship laws.

How sex creeps into our lives
Today we can see sex all around us — housed in museums, prostituted legally on the streets of Vegas, explained through therapeutic radio shows, and broadcasted as streaming media on the Internet.

Who hasn't heard of Dr. Ruth, America's Leading Sex Therapist? With her nationally and internationally syndicated radio and TV programs, "Sexually Speaking" and "The Dr. Ruth Show," she has certainly made her modern views known. She is a pioneer in spreading what she labeled "sexual literacy." And what about all the other talk shows? From Oprah to Howard Stearn, sex is now an acceptable subject to talk about not only openly, but on the air.

How sexuality is usually measured and how those measurements are typically used
The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction is a renowned institution that can be traced back to 1938. In preparing for a new women's course about marriage and its contemplation at Indiana University, zoologist Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey discovered that scientific data on human sexual behavior was sparse. He began collecting his own data, eventually resulting in more than 18,000 sexual histories based on intimate, face-to-face interviews. His research covers sex in a fairly comprehensive manner, looking at issues surrounding erogenous zones, bisexuality, extramarital sex, fantasy, foreplay, homosexuality, masturbation, nudity, peak performance/maximum sexual activity, oral sex, orgasm, premarital sex, sex with prostitutes, and even sadomasochism.

Many organizations exist today that cater to modern sexuality issues of abuse, dysfunction, therapy, public health, social problems, and more. The research at educational institutions like The Kinsey Institute help to provide credible background information and research to progress in today's society.

Tickle's Sexual Personality Test
There's plenty of evidence linking sex to biology and sex to certain cultural norms. But have you ever taken a test that took all of this into account to bring you a useful way to discuss sex and how it relates specifically to you? Tickle's Sexual Personality Test assesses your sexual behavior on 7 different scales. It will help give you a better understanding of your sexual personality — a part of you that's just as important as your personality as you go through life. Knowing more about your sexual persona will make you happier, and healthier. This test will show you your sexual strengths and will offer advice for making them even stronger. Join the millions of Tickle members who have already benefited from this